南瓜vs偶像 我的思想

经历

人生有很多经历,而这或许就是你从这个世界降临到离开最重要的东西吧。至少我这么认为。

最近很苦恼,这是一件好事,是我成长过程中重要的阶段。从今年开始迈入而立之年,三十而立啊。但我却依旧很年轻,总觉得和公司里面的85后没什么区别,有一颗年轻的心是一件好事,但是致命的是,显然不是这个阶段还在干这个阶段的事,是一种糊涂。

我对生命的思考很有研究,源于我以前热爱文学和哲学,多读了一些书。我很清楚,生命只不过是一个过程,而在这个过程中,你要面对生老病死,酸甜苦辣,悲伤离合,从中品味人生百态。所以,我的理论是,我永远是一个新人,保持着一颗好奇心,满足于现在的生活,向往更大的天空。因为我觉得,这是一种积极的人生态度,不抱怨,不悲观,聪明的活着。

说到经历,不得不提智慧这个词。聪明=智慧吗?错了,聪明只等于智,说明你智商高,但并不等于慧。慧是你对人生的理解,是大彻大悟后,一切归于原点后的返璞归真。是直面现实境况,笑对人生的从容。而经历就是积累慧的过程,是一次从看清自己到看不清自己,再到看清自己的过程。我对慧的另外一个理解是天下大同。先哲孔子的儒家思想归于慧吧?老子的道家思想归于慧吧?释迦摩尼的佛法、“两仪生四象,四象生八卦”的太极是慧吧?鸡生蛋,蛋生鸡是慧吧?

我觉得,他们是同一个道理。这是经历的沉淀和思想的碰撞产生的火花。唯有此再看身后事的时候,你会多一分从容和淡定。

最近有三句话本来想写在微博上,后来没写,是这样的:第一句是,只有绝望,才有希望。应景的是,我觉得这段时间对我而言虽然算不上绝望的时候,倒也是很大的麻烦,我想要过更好的生活,但没有更好的资本,也正因为缺少资本,所以才有希望去争取,去达到。第二句是,需求虐我千百遍,我待需求如初恋。很有意思的一句话,我们做互联网这个行业,需要的是对市场、客户的心理把握,虽然有的时候他们很难缠,给你出难题,但是你还是要有足够的耐心,带着一颗火热的心去面对。因为,他们是你事业成功的基础。第三句话是,我感谢那些不断指出我缺点的人,因为他们让我进步,我希望这样的人越来越多。说实话,这样的话,没有经历的人接受不了,因为这是上升到一定高度的思想层面,不是智解决的问题,而是慧中悟到的。那些指出我缺点的人,是我的一面镜子,可以正衣冠,明是非,知兴替,知得失。

刚才也看了王石从美国哈佛学习归来的采访视频,他一手创建的万科应该是中国房地产业的一块金字招牌,他两次登上珠穆朗玛峰,而今在60岁的时候前往哈佛做一名学生。他直言,对他来讲是一次新生。他在不懂英语学业累的时候,也天天盼望着过双休日,因为这样就可以睡懒觉了。但还是坚持,方向对的,坚持就一定会有好的结果。结果人家很快就学会了英语,可以自由地和别人交流。从中体会到幸福的滋味。

经历是一个阶段一个阶段的。而我所遇到的问题也是人生中的一个阶段。我要明确知道方向在哪里,因为方向是对的,坚持就一定有结果。我的问题是——

开始步入三十而立,现实的问题包括:在一个企业呆了五年,成长空间己然封顶,想要跳出去的时候才发现,知识结构、经验和学历明显不足,结了婚买了房,每个月都要还货款,想要生孩子,想要买车,买IPHONE、买IPAD3,想要过更好的生活!感情方面,担心会有裂痕。

如果还是像以前一样“年经”的话,我相信,担心总有一天会变成现实。而这个阶段你要面对的是,把问题一个一个解决掉。我相信我自己有这个能力,也有这个毅力,努力吧,不那么年轻的年轻人。

最后给自己定一个目标吧:1、跳槽,有更好的经济来源,方向为满足中小企业上网需求,产品策划、提供企业信息解决方案、帮助企业利用信息取得发展上来;2、学历解决,有更稳定的心态,年内将所有试考完,取得大专文凭,或许计划利用明年一年时间取得本科文凭;3、买车,为家庭助力,经历了福克斯、POLO、凯悦、高尔夫、科鲁兹后,现在将目标定为朗逸;4、学好英语,更融入经济社会,至少今年的考试通过没有问题;5、锻炼身体,为可能的一切积累资本。今年内将花100天的时间进行锻炼,每次不低于半小时。

我已经准备好了,并期待这样的经历发生。

我对我自己是很真实的,王石说:只要你不在乎自己,别人不会在乎你。意思是不要怕面子上过意不去,你真正应该想的是如何实现它。

 

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